[Vision2020] condemning rape

Wed Apr 23 11:35:15 PDT 2008

Outstanding response, Saundra.

Keely

Date: Wed, 23 Apr 2008 10:00:29 -0700
From: sslund_2007 at verizon.net
Subject: RE: [Vision2020] condemning rape
To: jampot at roadrunner.com; kjajmix1 at msn.com; suehovey at moscow.com; vision2020 at moscow.com

Dear
Mr. Crabtree,

With
respect to #4 below, have you lost your mind (no disrespect intended) or do you
simply live in a parallel universe where no one else who gives a rip about
children would care to live?

Fact: 
without a doubt, Doug Wilson knew of Steven James Sitler’s heinous crimes
on 3/10/2005.  There has been speculation that Wilson orchestrated Sitler’s
flight from this community to avoid contact with local law enforcement, but we’ll
stick with facts here.

Fact: 
the criminal complaint was filed 7/6/2005.

Fact: 
depending on which Christ Church source you want to believe, church members
were extensively informed of Sitler’s predation in our community no later
than November (that’s from Wilson himself).  Other Christ Church
members claim to have known beforehand, but I’m content enough to use Wilson’s
dates in this context.

Fact: 
a very successful gag order was issued by Kirk hierarchy as evidenced by the
fact that while the Kirk congregation was made aware of Sitler’s
predation in this and other communities, not a single member cared enough about all the children in this community –
the children of their neighbors – to warn those of us not privy to Kirk
HOH meetings that a monster had been free to prey on and molest our children
for some 18 months.  This from people who had – and have continued to
-- shrilly insisted that they are good neighbors and members of the
community.  Needless to say, their kowtowing to that gag order makes hollow
their demands for recognition as good neighbors.

Fact: 
outside the Kirk and the judicial system (which also remained inexplicably
silent), no one in the community was informed for eleven months
following his adjudication that this monster, who came to our community to attend
NSA, had trolled for child victims in our community.  The first news
article appeared in the Trib on 6/7/2006 with the Snooze quickly following on
the Trib’s coattails 6/8/2006.  News coverage only happened after
the information was brought to light by others.

Fact: 
compare and contrast this with news coverage of other non-Kirk local sex offenders
before and since, and it doesn’t take a genius to realize that Svengali
Doug Wilson’s gag order was successful beyond his wildest dream.

We
will be voting on some key local offices later this year, and I for one won’t
forget who played roles in withholding this vital community safety information,
nor will I forget that our local newspapers (such as they are) have never quite
been able to rise to the challenge of providing truly important news in a timely
manner.  But, I digress  J

So,
let’s get back to this part of what you wrote to Keely:

“4. Again, the story
was indeed disseminated, just not in the manner that would have made you the
happiest. Are we noticing a trend here?”

If
you think the dissemination factually outlined was adequate or appropriate, I
would suggest that you seek immediate medical attention to have your head put
back on your shoulders where it belongs rather than letting it remain where the
sun doesn’t shine.  And, yes, we are noticing a trend
here:  for some completely unfathomable reason, you will make any
argument, no matter how blatantly false or outlandish, to defend the Kirk while
trying to make those who speak truth objects of ridicule.  Shame on you.

So,
have at it – we all know  you will – let ‘er rip, Mr.
Crabtree.

First,
though, I would remind you that you are a father with children you nurtured,
love, care about, and tried to protect while raising them, and you only make
yourself look the fool by continuing to defend the handling of the Steven James
Sitler horror.

JMHO,

Saundra Lund

Moscow, ID

The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good
people to do nothing.

~ Edmund Burke

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From:
vision2020-bounces at moscow.com [mailto:vision2020-bounces at moscow.com] On
Behalf Of g. crabtree

Sent: Wednesday, April 23, 2008 7:35 AM

To: keely emerinemix; Sue Hovey; vision2020 at moscow.com

Subject: Re: [Vision2020] condemning rape

1.
No change

2.It
seems that your personal standard IS the issue since you go out of your
way to enumerate it and then take every opportunity to point out instances
where you are outraged at its not having been met.
Unquestionably "horror, outrage, grief, and humility" were
expressed during the course of this incident. Since you didn't detect any sack
cloth and ash, nor any self flagellation, it didn't quite meet your personal
standard. Not enough to satisfy Keely is not the same as not at all.

The
cartoon you mention while perhaps being in questionable taste under the
circumstances hardly meets the qualification for "scatological."

3.Why
not go door to door and notify every household in the greater Quad Cities area?
The churches mechanism for disseminating information is, apparently, head of
household meetings. Another case of just because it's not done your way doesn't
mean it wasn't done.

4.
Again, the story was indeed disseminated, just not in the manner that would
have made you the happiest. Are we noticing a trend here?

5.
I suppose we will have to agree to disagree here. Technically true is the same
as absolutely true. My memory is pretty good and I recall no moment during the
incident where it wasn't plain where the defendant went to church.

6.
" I believe that....." Once again we're back to your personal
opinion. As I said before, good counsel can be had from a myriad of sources. A
license and a PhD do not give a person an exclusive franchise on good advise.

7.
I can't imagine how questioning a blatantly false statement (Ms. Hovey's
original foolish remark) would give you the impression that "I don't like
girls." As a male, I am unqualified to comment on this topic? Perhaps you
should check in with my wife and two daughters for the straight skinny on how
much I don't like them. I keep them safely locked up in a pumpkin shell in my
back yard. Watch out for the dog. (he's a dude)

And
the extra credit question's answer will have to be, for the most part, no. I
see nothing about this faith community that makes them any more or less
"objectionable" than any of the other congregations in our community
that I have nothing but respect for. Obviously, you can't say the same thing.
Why is it that only this group is singled out for your special brand of
scrutiny? It would seem to me that many denominations would fail to live up to
the Keely Mix personal standard.

g

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Original Message ----- 

From: keely emerinemix 

To: g. crabtree
; Sue Hovey
; vision2020 at moscow.com

Sent: Tuesday, April 22,
2008 9:07 PM

Subject: RE: [Vision2020]
condemning rape

Once again, by the numbers, as you say:

1.  Wilson called the cops -- on that, we both agree.

2.  My "personal standard" for pastoral behavior during a rape
scandal, while reasonable, isn't the issue.  I'm thankful that Wilson has
an authority far, far above me who will judge his attitude.  As for
specific examples of sarcastic humor during what should have been a time of
repentance and self-reflection, I gave you one:  the cute little cartoon
about the young male "youth group leader" ogling a young, curvaceous
girl.  I think I would, perhaps, have set aside my love of
snicker-snicker, sophomoric cartoon art about lusty male ministers if I were a
pastor whose congregation had been rocked by the rape of toddlers by one of its
male students at its classical Christian college.  

3.  Why not tell the women directly?  

4.  And why not tell the community?  The media's dissemination of the
story was shoddy and tepid.  The offender's home church was open and
immediate about printing his name and the nature of his crimes once those
committed in that community were revealed.  Not a word from the Kirk until
the story broke on Vision, courtesy of an outraged former congregant.

5.  Your recollection fails you here.  Wilson insisted the man was
not a member of the congregation.  Technically true, and yet patently
false.

6.  I believe that an untrained minister who holds to the doctrines of
sexuality, patriarchy, submission and hierarchy that Wilson does should offer
no more than prayer and comfort, not counseling for sex offenses, and that only
after he humbly examines his own doctrinal foundations.  The man had a
licensed therapist in Lewiston.  That he had a  minister here in
Wilson is undisputed; the perpetrator may call him "pastor," but I
certainly wouldn't, and don't.

7.  "Girl-power Christianity"?  Good heavens.  This is
my religious faith, not a softball team.  Fortunately, though, my God
loves girls who live in His power.  It's guys like you who don't like us,
and yet somehow we go on.

And a bonus question:  Is there anything -- ANYTHING -- that you've seen
from Christ Church or its ministries or elders or pastor that you've found at
all objectionable . . . ever?  

Keely

From: jampot at roadrunner.com

To: kjajmix1 at msn.com; suehovey at moscow.com; vision2020 at moscow.com

Subject: Re: [Vision2020] condemning rape

Date: Tue, 22 Apr 2008 13:31:03 -0700

Ms.
Mix, Thank you for response and benevolent wishes for my days progress. While
your post in no way provides an answer to the manner whereby a group of
men tolerated and protected sexual predators, (No surprise there. They didn't
and you couldn't) it does raise a question or two not the least of which would
have to be by what authority do you feel competent to set a minimum standard
for a biblical response? That aside, It seems to me the incident WAS dealt with
inside your parameters. By the numbers: 

1.
No possible disagreement here.

2.
Here it seems that it was your PERSONAL standard that was not met. To
assert that there was no expression of horror, grief, etc. is simply without
merit. That it didn't satisfy your standards is no surprise. In all
likelyhood nothing short of group immolation could have, I suspect. (I
would ask for a specific example of "scatological" sarcasm from
B&M but I imagine that it would arrive in a manner similar to Ms.
Hovey's response to my initial question, either not at all or far short of the
mark.)

3. Do
you really imagine that when the husbands and fathers were informed that any of
them thought it too inconsequential to mention to their wives? Anything
interesting at the head of household meeting, dear? Gee whiz, honey there was
something I was going to tell you about but its slipped my mind. Oh well,
what's for supper? I very much doubt that any variation of that conversation
took place.

4.
It would be most unseemly (to say nothing of potentially illegal prior to
trial) for a pastor to hold some sort of a press conference in a situation such
as this. The media disseminated the story as is their job. 

5.
I can't really speak to this issue since I have no first hand knowledge but, my
impression was that when asked it was made clear that the person in question
was a student at NSA and while not technically a member of the congregation was
most assuredly "one of theirs." Nothing unethical and no pretending
that there was no connection to the best of my recollection.

6. Woefully,
breathtakingly, unqualified to offer council? Sage advise can come from
any number of sources. I very much doubt that his pastor offered up any that
was bad. Heck, even I could make a few suggestions that the miscreant wouldn't
go wrong by following.        

7.
And here we come full circle. Why would anyone feel particularly obligated to
heed your "admonishment" with regard to this matter? Clearly you
and your particular version of girl power Christianity will never mesh with the
Kirk. Trying at every turn to tear it down utilizing innuendo, falsehoods, and
misrepresentations doesn't come across as particularly Christ like
either.

Thank
you for the dialog and a pleasant afternoon to you,

g                                         

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Original Message ----- 

From: keely emerinemix 

To: Sue Hovey ; g. crabtree
; vision2020 at moscow.com

Sent: Tuesday, April 22,
2008 8:54 AM

Subject: RE: [Vision2020]
condemning rape

Gary, you believe Sue engaged in character
assassination and bigotry by asserting that Christ Church consists of a group
of patriarchal men willing to tolerate, even protect, males in their
congregation who are sexual predators.  These are her words, not
mine.  I agree with her general point, but I don't really know how they
would tolerate, even protect, another sexual predator.  I only know how
they acted when one was revealed.  And so I'll propose a minimum standard
for responsibly, Biblically, dealing with active sexual predators who rape
children in the congregation and perhaps elsewhere.

1.  Tell the police, which Wilson did. 

2.  Express horror, outrage, grief, and humility.  The public face of
Christ Church during this was defensive and arrogant; privately, on his blog,
Wilson continued the usual scatological, snarky sarcasm that he trades in so
richly.  Remember the "youth minister" cartoon?  In context
or out, a real knee-slapper, that.

3.  Then tell the mothers, who are usually the ones who would notice
trauma-driven behaviors or odd physical changes in their children, and tell the
fathers.  Wilson didn't.  The male heads of households were told; it
was up to them whether or not to bring the information home to their
subordinate wives.

4.  Tell the community.  Wilson didn't, even though the  perp
lived in Moscow and presumably emerged at some point from the Kirk social
network.

5.  Don't deny that he's "one of yours."  Be honest here --
Wilson took pains to point out that the man was not an official member of
Christ Church or Trinity Reformed.  The man studied in the Kirk's New St.
Andrews, attended weekly service at CC, lived in a Kirk family's home as a
boarder in a program overseen by Kirk elders, came to Moscow to be part of
Christ Church, and would have, prior to the crimes, been identified as a Christ
Church kind of guy.  I think that's what people mean and not the absence
of official enrollment when they say he was "from Christ
Church."  I think that honesty about the man's connection to your
church fellowship is what people mean by "ethical" and
"straightforward."

6. As the justice system adjudicates the case, which it did here with
surprising results, be available to comfort the families and minister grace to
the offender.  Wilson believes he did that.  He also counseled the
predator, something he is woefully, breathtakingly, unqualified to do.

7.  Examine if there's anything in the pastor's teachings or beliefs that
might encourage bad behavior or misapprehends the Scriptures and doctrines of
the Church.  In response to my admonishment that the Kirk elders do so,
one of them, our pal Dale, simply responds by making fun of Tom Hansen.  I
think that wasn't quite what I meant by "sober reflection," and I'm
pretty sure Christ didn't.

OK, gc . . . have at it, and have a lovely day.

Keely

From: suehovey at moscow.com

To: jampot at roadrunner.com; kjajmix1 at msn.com; vision2020 at moscow.com

Subject: Re: [Vision2020] condemning rape

Date: Tue, 22 Apr 2008 01:26:16 -0700

A wildly
reckless assertion!!!  Character assassination and
bigotry?  Coming from you, Gary, I would call it
displacement.  

Sue
H.      

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Original Message ----- 

From: g. crabtree 

To: Sue Hovey ; keely emerinemix ; vision2020 at moscow.com

Sent: Monday, April 21,
2008 3:13 PM

Subject: Re: [Vision2020]
condemning rape

I
defy you to provide even a shred of documentation for the wildly reckless
assertion made in the final sentence of your post. It is my understanding that
when evidence of misconduct became known within the "congregation" in
question it was dealt with promptly and in an absolutely correct manner. To
claim anything else is unsupportable character assassination and bigotry. It is
also, unfortunately, par for the course with a certain group which prides
itself on its unfailing tolerance.

g

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Original Message ----- 

From: Sue Hovey 

To: keely emerinemix ; vision2020 at moscow.com

Sent: Monday, April 21,
2008 12:14 PM

Subject: Re: [Vision2020]
condemning rape

Keely, 
I appreciate that you read Dale's blog and keep us in the loop.  It's
important we are called upon to remember a significant number of people in
this community are willing to twist a tragic issue and use it as
a bludgeon to attack those of us who define ourselves as liberal.  I
think we shouldn't be surprised this would be his issue now.  He's 
representative of a group of patriarchial men, willing to tolerate, even
protect, males in their congregation who are sexual
predators.   

Sue
H.

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Original Message ----- 

From: keely emerinemix 

To: vision2020 at moscow.com

Sent: Sunday, April 20,
2008 3:16 PM

Subject: [Vision2020]
condemning rape

Visionaires,

The Everlasting Blogstalker, Dale Courtney, laments today on his Right-Mind
blog that Moscow's liberals are quick to jump on the bandwagon of disapproval
of the recent revelations that young girls in the FLDS polygamist cult in West
Texas are routinely forced into sexual relationships with older men who believe
that these polygamous "celestial marriages" are essential to the
practice of their faith, while remaining silent about things like young girls
being forced to "marry" older men in some Muslim cultures.  Dale
believes that the shameful tolerance his liberal foes exhibit toward the
behavior of some Muslims is hypocritical in light of their disgust over
offshoot-Mormon group practices, and he, like a good "Christian"
libertarian man of chest, must make note of it.  It seems that we liberals
just can't muster any disapproval of Islam, so busy are we, I suppose, hating
groups that call themselves Christian.  

Certainly Dale's worldview is energized by the thought that he and his pals are
witnesses to the persecution of the Church from their vantage point of those
suffering under it.  It's a silly assertion, of course, as is his smug
denouncement of feminized, morally bankrupt liberals who pick and choose their
objects of outrage from a tortured position of ethical spinelessness.  I
am a liberal; I know of no one, liberal or conservative, who isn't disgusted by
the reality of adult men who engage in sex with children.  I'm not aware
of anyone who thinks that religion excuses the horrors that men visit upon
their victims, whether that religion is a perversion of Christianity or a
perversion of Islam.  Because most of the people I know are rational,
decent people, they are angered by child rape and outraged that it can be, and
is, committed as a sort of religious expression.  Atheists and the
religious are united in believing that no God would be honored by inflicting
horror on the little ones he created.

I don't know if Muhammed had a sexual relationship with a nine-year-old girl,
as Dale asserts, just as I don't know if Joseph Smith slept with underage
girls.  My not being Muslim or Mormon, or part of any group that claims to
be the "true expression" of either, has nothing to do with the sexual
sin of the men each faith reveres as prophets.  I am much more concerned
about my own faith and the men who claim it, and who, as Christians, perpetuate
patriarchy, hierarchy, power, manipulation and sexism in their homes, churches,
and relationships.   If, for example, there were a Christian church
in town that had witnessed one or two specific instances of their men preying
on young children or teenage girls, I would expect that that church would
reflect on any connection between the rape committed by their young students of
patriarchy and power, sexism and sexuality, and the practices and teaching that
the predators received from their teachers.  I would expect that that
church would publicly repent of any gender-based arrogance, hierarchy, or
wielding of power it had exhibited.  I would hope that its leaders would
examine a theology that has as its origin the reality of a post-Fall seizing of
ungodly power and descent into violence, rather than the redemptive, radical
justice and equality ushered in by the Savior they claim to worship.  I
would pray that such a church would see that its elevation of male power and
privilege, its defense of patriarchy, its practice of gender hierarchy and
unilateral submission, and its defensive clinging to the ways of the world and
not the fruit of the Spirit are sinful, reflecting the depotism of evil and not
the gentleness of Christlike love.  I would expect that.  

I would be disappointed.

And so I will lead the charge, if that is indeed  what Dale's asking for,
by announcing that this middle-aged, progressive, evangelical homemaker, and
everyone she knows, thinks men who sleep with girls are evil. 
There.  Now that the totality of liberal condemnation of rape and pedophilia
has been thusly offered to this erstwhile elder, let's see if he and his other
patriarchal heads of household pause and examine if the perpetuation of sexual
violence on the weak in the name of religion has more to do with bad theology,
teaching, and practice than with the perceived indifference of Moscow's
liberals.  It could be the start of an incredible spiritual renewal,
revolutionary in scope and profound in effect.  Or, Dale could just write
this off as the emotional blather of someone who just doesn't know her place, a
position that is probably a lot easier to undertake while enjoying the Sabbath
with other puny patriarchs.  

I guess we'll see . . . 

Keely

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