[Vision2020] Another excuse for bad behavior

[Donovan Arnold]

Rose,
  
 Thanks for the misinformed comments. But they are in  direct conflict with Dr. Tony Atwood in Australia and researchers at  John Hopkins Hospital. Asperger's cannot be overcome by simply  educating it away! Your comment is like saying we can get rid of  deafness by teaching people how to listen. The fact is the actual  nerves in the brain that perceive nonverbal and social cues in  Asperger's and the nerves that perceive sound, respectively, are  missing, not there, gone, never fully developed. 
  
 Rose,  people with Asperger's are not stupid, they are simply missing the  nonverbal and social contexts because the "equipment" in the brain to  read and interpret those cues correctly and accurately is not there.  Imagine not being able to tell accurately when someone is mad, upset,  frustrated, confused, happy, or shy unless they actually tell you. And  at the same time, people not properly reading your cues, because you  don't know how to send them out properly, they think you are upset when  you are not, or are being trying to be mean when you are not trying to  be, or they think you are being coy,and even self centered or a know it  all. People also will not disclose verbally that they are angry,  irritated, happy, OK, fine, or whatever. They expect you to read it on  their body language, or know it. They will also lie, and say they are  fine, when in fact they are not fine. It really can be frustrating and  confusing. And not to mention how irritating it is to
 another to be  kept asking how they are feeling because that person cannot properly  read their non-verbal cues. 
  
 Teaching someone with  Asperger's syndrome what to do in a social situation is like teaching  someone that is color blind what to do when they see a red light, green  light, or yellow light. They understand what to do, they are not sure  when the light is green, yellow, or red, they cannot see it. 
  
  So, to put it clearly. People with Asperger's frequently over or under  react to a social situation because they do not correctly perceive the  social situation, not because they are assholes. Not every person with  Asperger's incorrectly interprets every situation in the same incorrect  manner. Many overreact or interpret the situation as a worse  interpretation possible because of many experiences of being burned  (and not even knowing it because they could not perceive it). Unless  someone is with a person with Asperger's to tell them, that is an  incorrect or correct assessment of the social situation, education will  not help them. 
  
  I hope this makes things clear. If not, well, at least I tried, but  there is only so much I can do an say to try and make it a little  easier for you to understand. 
  
  
  Best,
  
  _DJA
  
  

donald huskey <donaldrose at cpcinternet.com> wrote:                                  Donovan writes in part:
     
     
    &#8220;HA  HA. You are a riot! I guess you get a kick out of a guy with Asperger's  who tries his best not to come across in written forum as a  know-it-all. As anyone and everyone with Asperger's or Autism does.&#8221;
     
    Donovan,  if your posts represent &#8220;your best&#8221; than &#8220;your best&#8221; won&#8217;t do. Offering  Asperger&#8217;s as an excuse for your belligerent, perseverant, and frankly  ignorant emails is a pathetic attempt to garner pity while justifying  your piss poor social skills. Asperger&#8217;s Paspergers&#8217;s - sometimes a  jackass is just a plain, ordinary, garden variety jackass.  
     
    And, by the way, not *every*  person with Asperger&#8217;s or Autism comes across as a know-it-all, as you  claim. (I hope I am not remembering correctly that you are doing  graduate work in Special Ed  if that remark is a reflection of  your attitude.)  Appropriate social training from family members,  teachers, and counselors contribute significantly toward enabling those  with (an accurate) diagnosis of Asperger&#8217;s to become successful,  contributing members of their communities.  
     
    Rose Huskey
     
     
     
     
    
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