[Vision2020] Hooray! Kai Changed His Position!....Not

[Tami Stinebaugh]

I found the following remarks offensive and hurtful.  [Tom Hansen
said: "Perhaps the reason why nobody knows where your brother is now
is because nobody cared where he was then."] I am not sure why you
would assume that nobody cared about him.  From personal experience, I
know that helping a family member with a severe drug problem is
extremely difficult and often if that family member doesn't want help,
there is not a dang thing you, or anybody else, can do about it.

I was shocked to read this, and felt compelled to jump into the
conversation.  I'm not sure if you realize how hurtful a statement
like this can be...

Tami Stinebaugh




On 6/23/05, Tom Hansen <thansen at moscow.com> wrote:
> Mr. Eiselein stated:
> 
> "I have a younger brother, Anthony, or Danny, as we called him. In junior
> high, he started smoking weed. It progressed through high school, escalating
> into booze, coke, speed, opiates, you name it.  All through it, he always
> wanted his weed more than anything.  Now, 30 years later, nobody knows where
> he is, whether he is dead or alive, in prison or in a gutter. I haven't seen
> or spoken with my brother in 15 years, I can recall every word of our last
> conversation. My mother has searched for him, to no avail. My daughter has
> never met her uncle, she only knows him from stories and pictures."
> 
> Perhaps the reason why nobody knows where your brother is now is because
> nobody cared where he was then.
> 
> I grew up in Los Angeles in the 60's.  In high school I experimented with
> marijuana a few times.  After my folks found out, I couldn't go to the store
> without an escort.  My activities were monitored and restricted for just
> over a year.  I was so upset at my parents for what I perceived as
> "controlling my life" that I became active in Students for a Democratic
> Society (SDS) and Voices in Vital America (VIVA) during my senior year just
> to get out of the house.  I am convinced that my parents let me participate
> in SDS and VIVA activities because they felt as long as I was politically
> active, I wasn't doing drugs.  They were right (although they did have my
> older sister tag along with me on occasion).  I have not been involved
> whatsoever with any illicit drugs other than those few times in high school
> with marijuana.
> 
> I am telling you this because, had my parents NOT been there to discipline
> me (pronounced "care for me"), God knows what would have become of me.  So,
> don't blame it on the availability of drugs, Mr. Eiselein.
> 
> More than likely your brother had questions.  There may have simply been
> nobody there to answer him.
> 
> Take care, Moscow.
> 
> Tom Hansen
> Moscow, Idaho
> 
> We could learn a lot from crayons: some are sharp, some are pretty, some are
> dull, some have weird names, and all are different colors....but they all
> exist very nicely in the same box.
> 
> 
> 
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