[Vision2020] Taking charge of your own life...

[Don Kaag]

Ted:

No one can make you a victim if you do not accept victimhood.  We have 
laws in this country focused on that.  My point, which I am sure that 
you will never concede, is that once a person---male or 
female---reaches adulthood, they are, or ought to be, responsible for 
their own actions and controllers of their own destiny.  That's the 
American dream.

It doesn't take physical strength, it doesn't take weapons or karate 
training.  All it takes (Granted, it is a big "all"...) is guts, hard 
work, and an unwillingness to be pushed around.  I am sick and tired of 
weenies whining about how the world, or the country, or their religion, 
or their significant other, push them around and don't recognize their 
"personness".

If that's the truth, then they are responsible, as adults with a brain, 
to figure out how to stop it.  They've got a brain, they are citizens, 
with access to a plethora of community support agencies and volunteer 
groups, they need to get up off of their asses and do something about 
it, rather than complain about how they are mistreated.

And as far as the consequences you have listed---divorce, ostracism, 
rejection by their religion---here's a hot flash for you.  TAANSTAFL.  
(There is no such thing as a free lunch.)  In this world, you get what 
you work for and pay for.  That is the same for everyone.  If you want 
something badly, you must be willing to make the trade-offs to make it 
happen.

Don Kaag