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<div class="moz-cite-prefix">On 7/19/2012 6:32 PM, Donovan Arnold
wrote:<br>
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<div style="RIGHT: auto"><span style="RIGHT: auto">Very good
insights Ken and Wayne. Thank you! </span></div>
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<div style="RIGHT: auto"><span style="RIGHT: auto">As I was
saying to Scott, I don't know about the "same as you in a
partner" theory. I know <span style="RIGHT: auto"
id="misspell-0"><span style="RIGHT: auto">scientists</span></span>
state this, but I just like variety I guess. If someone is
like me, they are boring to me. I enjoy a mystery wrapped in
an enigma. There are differences I think that can even
compliment, I think, and improve or help the both of you.</span></div>
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The complementarity in couples idea appears in some personality
theories. Carl G. Jung's Personality Types, and the Myers-Briggs
Type Indicator, a personality inventory instrument described by its
author Isabel Briggs Myers in her book Gifts Differing, and
second-generation follow-on books such as Type Talk, Type Talk at
Work, and Type Talk in Love, by Kroeger and Thueson, can give you
overviews and working knowledge of the system. These are just the
top of the pile; many more MBTI resources are available, with the
search for, and the discovery of, the better ones being part of the
research process that is to be enjoyed.<br>
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new york, times, serif;font-size:10pt"><span style="RIGHT: auto">"The
different strokes for different strokes" I think is very true.
What one person likes another might be repulsed by. The reason
I asked about looks versus personality is that I also <span
style="RIGHT: auto" id="misspell-0"><span>perceived</span></span>
it as an either or situation. You either get someone that
looks exactly like you want a partner to and are highly
attracted to them, or they have the personality and behavior
you enjoy in a partner. Someone you love talking to, or
someone you love looking at. For me, I don't think it is
possible to have both. I love the interesting older, mature
mind that only comes with an older man, but I like the body
that comes with a younger man. I figure, it is best to shoot
for the middle somewhere. Someone that you greatly enjoy
talking to, but is still attractive enough to keep it <span
style="RIGHT: auto" id="misspell-1"><span>physical</span></span>
too. Am I odd in thinking that way?</span>
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Odd may not be the optimal diction, but to the extent that you
appear to believe the "dumb blonde" development theory, i.e., one
may be beautiful and dumb or ugly and brilliant, but not beautiful
and brilliant, with ugly and dumb being ignored all around, you may
uncharitably caricature yourself as juvenile, trite, and tiresome.<br>
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Certainly there are bodacious brains aplenty in the world, as
reviewing most university graduation ceremonies will reveal;
suggesting they don't exist fails to compliment your observations
and their accomplishments. That you prefer individuals with more
specific and particular characteristics only adds search
requirements to your to do list, but that should not cause you to
assume brilliant beauty does not exist because such does not appear
in your search results.<br>
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If you find your range of conversational choices limited, perhaps
you need to make efforts to expand your lingual range. Do you only
speak one language? How about adding another one or two or three?
The latinate romance languages that spread their vulgar varieties
beyond the Rome that spawned them may hold keys to the
conversational cultures that you seek. If you have not yet started
learning Spanish, then French, then Italian, perhaps now is the time
to create some more motivation to add multilingual to your personal
description.<br>
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Ken<br>
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