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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>ACS,<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>Hey, we agree! I think anyway. I don’t disagree with
anything you said in response to this. I would just say that the
pursuer/pursued construct has always been there, side by side with all of this
other interesting stuff; and I do not want to say that it does not look very
different at different times and places. For example, during the time there
where temple prostitutes, there would have been far more typical virgins
getting pursued by men for the purpose of a romantic relationship or
marriage. Whether it was the Helen of Troy, Joseph’s Mary, a
medieval virgin, Romeo’s Juliet, or Jane Austin’s Lizzy, the common
pattern is one dominated by male initiative and wooing, and a woman’s
strength in rejecting—at least to some extent. And I’d like to
think we could easily find some biological reasons for this, as perhaps Chas
would point out. Does this make sense? <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>Michael<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><font size=2 face="Courier New"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Courier New"'>> I think this is an
example of what I take to be the more radical <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><font size=2 face="Courier New"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Courier New"'>> nature of the social
views you are espousing in this area. My <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><font size=2 face="Courier New"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Courier New"'>> argument is not that
dating "must have" a "pursuer/pursued" construct; <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><font size=2 face="Courier New"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Courier New"'>> I wanted to rather note
that it has had this construct for the last <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><font size=2 face="Courier New"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Courier New"'>> 3000 years, clear into
the 21-st century in liberal <st1:country-region w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">America</st1:place></st1:country-region>.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><font size=2 face="Courier New"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Courier New"'>I have all sorts of
disagreements, down the line, with virtually everything you've said. But I'd
like to take particular issue with this. The past three thousand years haven't
been particularly similar in terms of human courtship behavior. The "past
three thousand years"<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><font size=2 face="Courier New"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Courier New"'>in Western society have
included: polygyny, polyandry, concubinage, "courtly love,"
wives-as-chattel, temple prostitution, dating, pre-marriage cohabitation,
monogamy, dating, post-dating, Christian courtship, et cetera. Residence
patterns have changed from patrilocal to neolocal -- an enormous shift.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><font size=2 face="Courier New"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Courier New"'>The past two hundred years
have been extremely turbulent, by historical standards, and the past three
thousand have been a mess of contradictory standards and principles that, were
they contemporaneous rather than sequential, would never be called the same
thing.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='text-autospace:none'><font size=2 face="Courier New"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Courier New"'>-- ACS<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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